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hi yall! i am an only child and my parents are diverced. i have always lived with my father. Recently, he got married and my new step-mom and step-brother have moved in with us. I think i am falling for my step-brother. he is really sweet and really hott. please tell me how to handle my feelings, i dont want to have a disfunctional family. thanks!


-- In Love In Mississippi




Dear "In Love In Mississi,"

Unfortunately, you and your step-brother are now related, even though it is not by blood, but it may be weird if you fell in love with him. Maybe you could tell him how you feel and ask him if he ever felt the same way. If he did, you two can work out your differences and find some "brother/sister"ly things to do instead, maybe he has a friend who would be interested in you. This would take your mind off of your step-brother. If he never had feelings for you like that, a good thing to do would be to explain that you understand now that you two are not meant to be and that you dont have any of those feelings anymore. If you do, you can take your mind off of them. Ask our parents for advice, they have been through a lot, and maybe this is a case they have encountered. I hope this problem all works out for the best. Maybe you just think he is good looking, or confused about the new marriage. Please write back and tell me how the situation works out!!





HI! I have no friends. I sit home and read all day. Books intrigue me. I sit at home and drink milk and cookies while reading some Sweet Valley High books. I wish I had a reading buddy.PLEASE HELP!

-Lonely Book Worm-




Dear Lonely Bookworm,

Hello. I understand your problem, you get caught up in so many books with so many different characters and personalities, that other people do not seem as good as they are or exciting sometimes. I have a suggestion, maybe you should join a reading group or an on-line reading club. That way, you can meet new people who enjoy reading as much as you do. Soon, they will introduce you to their other friends and you will gain many new friends who will all like you for who you are. Just because you read doesn't mean other people don't. I myself enjoy reading, but I do it in my spare time or sometimes with others if we have a book for school etc. I hope you join one of those things and make new friends because you sound like a nice person!





Hi Dr. laura , ur my last resort, u see i have a problem and i always pee my pants, i just cant help it , and now my boyfriend, and all my so called friends wont hang out with me anymore .... please help .... its not me its my bladder and i dont pee a little i pee like gallons and it smells really really bad , i am embaressed to be me sometimes !!! help please <3 lotz

-Leaky in Louisiana




Leaky in Louisiana,

Hello. I understand you have a very difficult problem. "Overactive bladder is not normal at any age," a wise commercial once told me. I think you should see a special doctor. He or she is the only one that can help your problem. If you are too embarrrassed to tell your parents, make an appointment and ask a friend, relative, or taxi to drive you there or somewhere close by so you can walk there in peace by yourself. It is nothing to be embarassed by though. Many people have the same problem and will cope with it in the same way. Believe me, take this advice. And if your friends were true friends, they would stick by you to the bitter end. =)





i am gay what should i do. also i love to hump trees is that a serious problem

-Billy Bob




Billy Bob,

Hello. There is nothing wrong with being gay, and I want you to know that. Best wishes to you and your boyfriend. Secondly, your other problem is one beyond me. I am not a male, so I am not sure why you might want to do that. Maybe it is a way of releasing your innermost feelings on something that can't respond back to you. You might want to discuss that with a guidance counsilor or family member!





Hi, I always try so hard to fit in with my friends, but they seem to push me away. I don't know what to do because I always thought I was nice to them, but that's not what I get back in return. I am not sure if you can relate because I have no clue who you are (how old are you?). Please help me!! I will send you their screen names if you can help and tell them how I feel because they only say I am selfish. They are also trying not to get this boy to like me, and I am upset. Thank you Dr. Laura!!

-Kaley




Kaley,

Hello. Wow, these "friends" don't exactly sound like friends to me at all! A friend is someone who likes you and gets excited when you and a guy share a mutual liking. I would strongly suggest that you talk this predicament over with your "friends" individually. If they still continue this behavior, maybe you should find other friends who appreciate you, your man, and your presence around them. My age is strictly confidential, but I can proudly say that I have very good friends. We share so many good times together. Laughter is the key to friendship (and the movies but thats besides the point), and I can relate to that. I am able to sympathize for you. But please, do not send their screen names to me. I can not work this problem out for you, you must do it yourself. Be strong because if you care this much about them, you truly are a good friends, so if this doesn't work out, I am confident there are many other people waiting to be your friend too!!! Good luck, and please, talk it over with them. It will help a lot, and do it in person!! Good bye for now!





hi laura , i luv you , i never stop thinkin about you ! i miss seeing u on the steps please help me !! write to me anything ! i cant live without u !!! love u for life please wriote me back ! ps ur friends gave me this adress so i could come in contact with u... i lkuc u always

-Luv in the West Indies




Luv in the West Indies, Hello again. It is very good to hear from you. Well, I showed your picture to my friends and they all thought you were pretty good looking! haha, but you'll have to find a new girl! I don't mean to be rude, but I might not ever see you again. Thank you for the nice note though. I know, it's hard to not miss a person like me, but soon, you might find a new girl. If not, maybe I will see you again next year! It was so nice of you to write to me! You did an excellent job of sweeping the stairs!! Maybe you will be promoted soon! Good luck always.





i have picked my nose and ate it, for as long as i can remember. The snots always tasted the same until recently.I starting high school in the fall and i dont want to have sour face all the time from eating my buggers. I don't even realize that I am doing it!! It is a natural reaction! My friends are disgusted, but my true friends understand I dont mean to and ignore it (as you can tell I have only had 1 boyfriend who quickly dumped me after this was grossly discovered by a wet one hitting his neck at the movies). i am afriad that the recent change of flavor could signal that i am sick in sdome way or something like that. please help me, i am veryt lonely and i dont want to be the only girl in school without a boyfriend!!! can't they just undeerstand?!? please help!

-Digging for Gold In Delaware




Digging for Gold In Delaware, Hello. Hmm, I see you have a very difficult problem on your hands. I am not sure why they weould taste different (because I am not a picker myelf), but there might be a reason. Maybe, you have realized nose picking isn't for you, and the taste is just a sign of that feeling. Maybe you can ask people to scold you when you pick, so you can eventually stop, or reward yourself when you don't go digging for a day. Your friends might be grossed out because, no offense, but it is rather gross. You are not physically sick, but you might want to break the habit. People sometimes can;t relate to or understand your problem, which makes them immune to saying only what they feel and that must be right. But maybe they don't understand that it is hard for you to break the habit. Maybe some of your close friends can help you. As for a boyfriend, if you can show them the real you, you might have a boyfriend in no time. Good luck! And maybe you want to reveal this information to a parent or doctor incase they think you also might need some help in breaking the habit for your own sake.





My friend thinks she is going to marry Justin Timberlake, but I don't think she will. That may sound mean, but the odds of that are slim to none. Now, I tried to tell her once that she couldn't and she switched her feelings to Jason Biggs. Now she thinks she has a choice. I don't know what to tell her without hurting her feelings because she is so dependant on those thoughts and hopes. I just want her to be happy because my guy friends really likes her and they are so right for each other! How do I let her know that?

-Stacey Anne




Stacey Anne,

Your friend might have a larger imagination than you do, or maybe use it more often. I will agree, I am a fan of Justin myself as well as other actors, but I know that I won't marry them. I think it's something you have to figure out for yourself. Don't be mad that she feels a different way or that you can't change her mind because, no offense, but you can't change her feelings. I think you want her to be more down-to-earth because it's more like you and your friends maybe. Don't crush her dreams though! Imagining marrying a moviestar or popular singer and becoming rich and famous or maybe just plain happy is something that makes a person feel good. I think the friend of yours that likes her, likes her for who she is. He must understand that she really likes this singer, but maybe she will get over him if she never meets him. If he can like her for being herself, I hope you can too! That's what friends are for! And if you know she won't ever marry any certain person for whatever reason, don't tell her that! It would upset her, like it would to anyone else. If you want to be her good friend, I think you should respect that. But if it gets out of hand, or you still feel this way, introduce her to that boy and maybe she will like him instead. He could have some natural qualities she really likes and will forget about her stardom and have a new boyfriend! Then all three of you will be very happy! I hope this works out for all three of you guys because you guys sound like nice people! Have fun (at the wedding! haha)





Dr. Laura,

I was wondering what medical school you attended to become this sort of doctor. Is it in the same categorie as a phychiatrist? I was looking into medical school, so I was browsing on-line for something along those lines and bumped into this webpage somehow. I saw a Dr. Laura column and I am wondering where you attended college.

-K. George




K. George,

There might be different opinions on whether I am the kind of doctor like a phyciatrist. I help with people's problems and they can write in any kind of problem they are having. Actually, I haven't even attended college yet! This just came easily for me. Many people told me I had great advice (not to brag or anything), so I thought I would put it to good use for people who don't want to ask questions in person. Well, sorry I couldn't help you with your college searching, but I hope you find one that suits you well. Good luck!





There's this one girl in our grade and she's really hot. I'm dating another girl who doesn't look half as good as she does. I've asked this to many people and I only got back crap! PLEASE DR. LAURA TELL ME IF I SHOULD DUMP MY GIRLFRIEND FOR THE OTHER GIRL OR JUST KEEP THE ONE I HAVE! YOUR MY LAST HOPE!

-Chester




Chester,

Hello. Well, the real question is : Who do you like more? This shouldn't be a hard question either. You should like one over the other, and that girl should be your girlfriend if she feels the same way. It's not a crime to think another girl is hot when you are going out with a different girl, but don't make it so obvious! Just say, she is hot and back off. If you keep thinking about her, then you must like her. I am not sure which girl you like more, but if it's not your current girlfriend or you are unsure, you should dump her so there will be less hard feelings than are going to come out of the situation if you don't end things and end up cheating on her or crushing her feelings. Unfortunately, there is no easy answer. I can not tell you what the right thing to do is. That answer only lies within your own heart. So please, when you're making up your mind, take into consideration everyone's feelings, and not just your own. Your friends are probably only giving you "crap" because they don't want your reputation to lower or hurt your girlfriend. They are probably only trying to help you make the right decision. Good luck!





Hi, umm I was wondering what kind of deoderant you suggest. I am kind of embarrassed by it, but sometimes the deodarant I use just doesn't do the job! I was wondering if you had a preferance. By the way, I am a female in case that has a different effect. Right now I am just using something that smells like a baby I found in my mom's drawer because I am afraid to ask her for one! She might think I am weird!

-Stinky




Stinky,

Hello. Well, you shouldn't be embarrassed about yourself or your stink. It's called body odor, and yes, everyone has it. Well, some deodarants cover it up while others actually get rid of it or something (I even learned that from commercials!) But, don't be afraid to ask your mom about it. She had to ask her mom when she was younger too. Everyone uses it and goes through that time, so you're not alone. I use Dove. I think it works well. It is white and goes on clear. If you need a stronger one, try Secret Platinum. That is supposed to work the best for sweat. If you have any other questions, please write again!





Dearest Dr. Laura,

Hi. My name is Claire and I have a problem. I have already seen the guidance councilor about it, but he didn't seem to understand where I was coming from. So I thought I would take a chance from you, also due to the fact you are female and probably can find it easier to relate to my problem. Well, my boyfriend dumped me two weeks ago and still can't give me a definite reason why he did it. I still like him a whole lot and he tells me he understands whenever I talk to him. He calls and we still hang out, but he suddenly told me that he still liked me a week ago. He told me there were reasons beyond him about the breakup, but when I asked him if he wanted ot go back out, he said no. But he still comments on how he still likes me! What do I do? I can not understand what he is getting at! I told him how I felt and he seemed to understand and relate! Please help! Has this ever happened to you? I came here because I put advice in search and it came up. Your other answers seemed to! be decent, even though some of the questions were a little odd. Well, if you can, please tell me what I should do! I don't know how to feel or what to thjink at this time! Thanks a bunch.




Claire,

Hello. Wow, that's tough. I do understand where you are coming from, but I don't understand him at all unfortunately. It sounds like you did your share plus some of his in trying to solve and better the problem. He might have feelings for you, but there might be something else attached to that. Maybe another girl likes him and he is thinking about her or he thinks he likes someone, but you come to his head instead. I am glad to hear that you told him how you felt. That is the best way to tell someone you have a problem. He might be shy. You may not think so, or ever notice, but he might not like to release his emotions or deep feelings. The best thing to do is let nature take it's course. Continue to hang out with him and still be good friends with him. That might show him that you can still like him, but friends over rules that. One day, those feelings for you might spark again. Or anoth Mr. Right might show up and you might fall head over heels for him instead! Everyone has a different personality and I think you understand that. I commend you for caring so much. I think it is great you can openly discuss your feelings with him, I know it is difficult. Well, I hope this advice helps and I hope things become better between you two. Good luck!





I just wanted to tell tell you that I get straight A's and B's. I am having phychological problems because I am in between the two letters. I'm not sure what i am, flexuating back and forth between the two powers. Help me!! Also, my feeling really get hurt when these 3 girls shout to me down the hall saying "I get straight a's and b's!". They don't understand what i am going through. I really do get straight a's and b's but I just don't want to admit it to them! Please help me Doctor Laura!!

-Bob




Bob,

Hello. I see your problem. I understand what you must be going through, an A or a B. They sound so far apart, yet they are not. An A is excellent, quite above average. A B just shows that you excell just as much as getting an A, but there might be a point or even a tenth of a point different in the grading system rankings. Do not feel discouraged. I am being very honest and sincere when I tell you that a B is just as great as getting an A. Both are above average. And by the way, those three girls probably just like you and do not know how to show it. They may think it is funny to yell your name down the hall because it grabs your attention. Be sure to talk to them. You never know, you might end up becoming good friends in the process, especially the one with short brown hair.





dear dr. laura , unlike some other letters u have been recieving my is real . I think i'm depressed . sometimes at night i cry for no reason . please tel me a serious answer b.c this is no joke .

-depressed




Depressed,

Hello. Do not worry, I take all of my letters seriously. Why are you depressed? There must be a reason and I am sorry, but I can not really help unless I know why you feel this way. Well, there are a few ways you might be able to get rid of it. Get to the source of the problem, if it is a person, talk it over with them to resolve anything, and whether you think it will work or not, it always does. Listen to some music. If there is a certain band or group you like, pop it into your CD player. Anything works from Pure Moods to 'N Sync. Another way to get your mind off your sadness is to watch a movie. It really helps because you can laugh and cry with other people and you will all feel the same way. The last way I've heard of that works is writing it down on a piece of paper. It lets you release all of your feelings without anyone interrupting. I hope you find a cure, but please do not do anything bad....I am sure there are many people who want to see you happy again including your parents and friends. Make good choices and always remember that there is a resolution to everything.





I have a bad case of scratching my butt. What should I do?

-(No Name)




No name,

Hello. Well, I haven't experienced your problem, but I would suggest to use bug bite medicine on it. Maybe some baby powder would do the trick. But the best advice I ever heard someone give a problem like yours is simply, Stop Scratching.





I have a problem with lieing. I am a pathological liar. I sit home and lie to myself and others. I think this may be a problem in the future.My real name is Garbage but i told everyone it is Trash. What should i do? Should i just keep lieing or tell the rotten TRUTH?

-lieing like a rug




Lieing like a rug,

Hello. Lieing is never a good thing. Soon, your friends and family will learn not to trust you, and when you really are telling the truth, they won't believe you. "The Boy Who Cried Wolf" is the best story to teach this moral. Instead of sitting down at home and lieing, you should get up and look around. You can see what destruction your lies might be causing in events and how other people now look at you. It probably will be a problem in the future because of jobs and maybe a relationship. It is hard to make a relationship work if your "significant other" can not trust you. He or she will never know if you are telling the truth if you dont always tell it like it is. But, the truth is you should tell the truth. The truth is not rotten. If you lie, you only dig the hole deeper, and after a while, it is harder to get back out of such a huge hole. So, take my advice--apologize to anybody you have lied to and tell them why you thought you were wrong and should change that way. Lastly, it woll make your life a whole lot more fun and simpiler if you TELL THE TRUTH.





Hi doctor laura- I have a problem. Whenever people look at me i get squirmish. Like if i'm driving down the road, and someone looks at me from their car, I feel like i am going to pass out. ARe these the symptoms of social anxiety disorder or is it my imagination? On the commercial they say that 50 million people a year suffer from it, but are they making it up? Please help me doctor Laura!

-Quiet in Quebec




Quiet in Quebec.,

Hello. Yes, the commercials on TV are always correct, social anxiety disorder is a problem that can definitely be fixed, especially with this I am about to share with you. Well, first, if you are driving on the road, look straight in front of you and not at the people around you. It could be your imagination that you are staring at you, but the anxiety is real. Do not fret, there are many people, especially family and friends, who will help you out during this difficult time in your life. First, you should start out by hanging around your family a lot and getting to know them even better. Then, move onto your friends who will hopefully introduce you to new people. Sooner or later, you will feel comfortable with these people and be able to express your feelings and not have to be so anxietyish. When you are more comfortable with new people, those other humans on the road will be nothing! Just stop and wave, there is no need to feel squimish. I garauntee you that people are not anything to be afraid of!! Just pretend you knwo them all well, take a deep breath, and concentrate on the fact that you can be strong! So take my advice, and if you need to,. see another doctor. I hope this all works out for you!





Dr. laura .. wuzzzzzzzzup ? i have a BIG problem ... i whine 2 much ... and when this happens everyone says" would u liek some cheese with that whine" and i hate that saying so i punch them in the face !!! and them they get mad at me !! but what the heck ... they kno u dont like the saying !!! so why do they do it ! HELP ME ASAP ...

-whine with cheese




Whine with Cheese,

Hello. I see you have a major problem on your hands. Hmm, well mabe your friends use the phrase "Do you want some cheese with that whine" to let you know that your complaining isn't music to their ears and they don't appreciate it. I understand you may not realize that you are doing it, but your whining may be sending them bad signals. I also understand by them using that phrase on you, it makes you feel mad, so you punch them. Please ,do not punch your friends. You can help it. They probably do not mean to hurt your feelings any more than you mean to whine all the time (or so they say you do). They like your complaining as much as you like their saying. The best thing to do is apologize to them for hitting them and for complaining. Then they will apologize for using that phrase when they learn that you don't mean to say all of those things. All of you will be on the same level and will understand each other. They definitely will be mad at you when you punch them because, well, who wouldn't be mad?! No offense, but I would be. Especially if the person doing it never talked to me about it! So, be sure to talk to your friends about how you feel, and DO NOT punch them in the face!!! That will even make them madder!! If you learn to hold your stronger emotions inside, then you will be better!





Dear Doctor Remick- I have a confession to make. I am deeply in love with you, although I am sure you are not aware at present. I was a past boyfriend of yours, and I still have the hotts for you!! I kno my hair may be big, and it is rather annoying when I slurp through my teeth, but i think you and me could hit it off together. Do you think a relationship could ever work out?? p.s. I love girls who fart, burp, pick their teeth, and find veins in their chicken at the dinner table.

-Laura's Lover




Laura's Lover,

Hello. I think your problem is that you have definite feelings for Laura's best friend (otherwise known as CornTooth). Well, I am not sure if we could hit it off together considering the fact that I do not know who you are. It is amazing that you can like me so much, but not put your real name at the top. I am not sure if it would work out because I do not like to burp, fart, or pick my teeth (like you) and especially not in public!! I hope you can make a better impression on your next date! I am so very sorry, but I don't know who you are! Maybe if we met, etc etc then we could talk, but as for now, please write back.





Hi Dr. Laura, Recently school has gotten out, as you probably know...and we've all gotten out report cards back. I was really excited to see how I did and once I opened it I almost passed out...I had gotten a 102.782 Final G.P.A....HOW COULD I HAVE DONE SO HORRIBLE?? I can't understand where I went wrong...I did my homework, aced all the tests, sucked up to the teachers...even did extra credit!! Then when I told my friends they rejected me and told me that I was a goody-goody and smarty pants. Dr. Laura, you're my only hope! Please tell me where I went wrong!

-Smarty-pants in South Carolina




Smarty-pants in South Carolina,

Hello. Unfortunately you did go wrong somewhere, a 102.782 is excellent!! Your friends might think you are a goody-goody because you are complaining about a grade that is excelling and they probably struggled just as hard as you did, but didn't get that high. They might not think it is fair for you to complain about a grade they would give anything for to achieve! Believe me, that GPA is anything BUT horrible! Your parents are proud of you for that...I am not sure if they could be any prouder. Heck, I am even proud of you! But school isn't all about doing soo much better than anyone else or sucking up to teachers and doing so much extra credit you are sick of it entirly, it is all about learning and having fun while you are doing that. It is for the use of moving on in the world so you have a sense of what the "real world" is like. Trust me, you are probably upset about your grade because you thought all of that extra stuff you did in class would pull up your average soo tremendously. All in all, it did. A 102 is so good! You don't even realize it! But doing all that extra work isn't always going to give you higher number grades, but it should give you a higher sense of self respect for doing the best you could!





Dear Doctor Laura-

My name is Kimmy. I sell the half-cooked pizzas at the middle school, as you probably already know. I have a problem on my hands. These three boys like to torture me every lunch mod, saying "Kimmy will you marry me?" I think they 3 homos together! They try to give me funny money, but I don't expect it. My husband and I are very happy together, so why they just leave me alone? I know I'm hot, but it gets annoying. Do you have any advice how do get them to stop bothering me? Thanks!

-No funny money



No funny money (Kimmy),

Hello. Well, I see you are very annoyed by these three Middle Schoolers pestering you. Well, since you think you are "very hot" then maybe they mean it, but are trying to be cool at the same time. I am also very glad that you and your husband have such a happy marriage--good luck to you both! I know the perfect strategy for you though, use reverse psychology! When thoe three boys approach you next time you are handing them that delicious pizza and they ask you out, say, "Yes! I would love to! I have just realized how much I have wanted to say Yes to you guys for so long!" (or something relevantly in that area). When they first look at each other, baffled, then turn to you again to see if you are laughing or just plain odd, back up your comment by saying, "So when will you pick me up?" They should definitely leave you alone then! But clear the minds of the students behind them (so they don't think you are totally nuts!) by telling them that those boys liked to tease you and you didn't appreciate it so you tried reverse psycology on them and nt to be alarmed. If you do not approve of that method, you can simply keep on ignoring them. Another method would be to tell them you don't appreciate their behavior, but that might make you look weaker, so I would not suggest using that approach. Remember though, these are only children. They have no sense what hurts a person's feelings because they only want to have fun at this age. As you get older, more and more people expect you to treat them with more and more respect so having fun in your youth certainly means a lot. And we all know what it is like trying to be "cool" or just plain ole trying to fit in. Do not take their words too seriously or take rash measures against them, for what can a principal even do to them? Talk to them, give them detention? Well, if so, those things won't change their feelings. Other kids, maybe meaner ones, will ask you more questions and soon you will wish you stuck with the first questionees you had. So, make them a special pizza one day and give them a wink....just see what they do to that one!





Dr. Laura, I've been meaning to talk to someone about my problem for the longest time, but I've never had enough courage to tell anyone about it. You're advice that I've read has given me a new hope. My problem is that I'm obsessed with the Backstreet Boys. I know you may not be familiar with them much because you are an avid N'Sync fan, but this is very urgent! My friends make fun of me for this. They tease me because I'm a boy and they call me a tini-bopper....what should I do?

-Tini Bopper in Taiwan




Tini Bopper in Taiwan,

Hello. Never worry, you can write in any problem to me and not be embarrased, because I answer many interesting questions each day. Anyways, there is nothing wrong with liking a boy band if you are a boy! N SYnc and The Backstreet Boys are boys themselves who obviously like boy groups (considering the fact that they ARE one), but no one makes fun of them for being able to sing well and make a lot of money in the process. Plus, they are very nice people, and you seem like a nice person too. Maybe you have a "younger boyish" side of you that dislikes rap and stuff like that but enjoy the low key tones of a boy group. No one should make fun of you because you like different things than they do, music included. If it is a friend making fun of that decision, well my only question is, what kind of a friend is that then? Yes, I am a very avid N Sync fan, and thank you for noticing, but I am able to relate to all kinds of people too. I appreciate the fact that no one makes fun of me for that taste in music. I do not understand it myself about boys and boy singing groups. It is correct within the "Tennage code" for girls to like such girl singers as Britney Spears and Macy Gray, etc, and also boy singers/groups/bands, but why is it not accepted for boys to like boy bands? I think it is perfectly fine for you to choose what music you would like to listen to. I respect the fact that you still like the boys, even after you have been poked fun at by peers. Tell them, you have talked to another girl and she said she respects you for your choice and it shouldn't be altered by other people trying to persuade you out of thinking the way you want to. A tini-bopper is not such a bad thing. What does it mean anyway? It is a name people like to stamp on the reputation of others because they differ from themselves. Plus, you can make more girl friends along your way. They are usually the ones who like the boy groups and want some guy to actually understand they are not all that bad!! Take my advice and do not change because of words from another. Always remember, "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but names can never hurt me." How true that saying is, you heart will always guide you to the right place.





Dearest Dr. Laura- You told me to write back so I did. I love you!! Can't you understand that? And I think we all know who I am, your past winner of a boyfriend. Please go out with me!! Like I said I likle rude manners at the dinner table!! By for now!!

-Laura's Lover(again)




Laura's Lover (again),

Hello. Well, thank you for reading my response and writing back! I do understand that you might like me, but I am not sure that it would work out. I am not sure that I know you yet! Tell me a little about yourself. Although I do not have rude manners at the dinner table, I do not think we could go out. I am so sorry, but I am not sure it would work out. But, this is an advice column! I am sorry but I don't think I can discuss personal matters here! Thank you for writing! Please send in a problem you have! I will be more than glad to answer it!





Dr.Laura some of my friends...mer and vohs make people feel bad bc they pick out cheese puffs and they wont tell how ... its a secret club i really want to kno if i dont i am not goin to give them claires surprise bags when i work there....ps i am mad hurt confused and annoyed .. help me please

-cheesy cheese puffs




Cheesy Cheese Puffs,

Hello. Mer and Vohs have a very rare talent, I assure you. I am a Jax picker myself and honestly, there is no way what-so-ever to tell another person how to choose the perfect cheese puff! Just ask them to give you a chance and find 3 cheese puffs you think are the good ones. If you are right, my friend you are in the club!!! Do not be mad, annoyed, hurt, or confused. Believe me, they did not start that club themselves because I know that for a fact. They joined the only way they could, by finding the perfect puff and you can do that too! Those two girls are not hiding any secret from anyone! Please ask them to give it a try and see what happens!





Dr. Laura, My feelings are very strong for you.. I like you so much my feeliings are best expresed through a song.. i am soo inlove with you.. it just keeps getting better. Eventho I have a fro I am sick of humping trees.. I want you to replace them!! HELP

-Love for Laura




Love for Laura,

Hello. I am curious what song best expresses these "feelings" you have. I thank you for liking me so incredibly much, but I am sorry, I can not deal with such personal matters through this. I will tell you one thing though, I am not sure if the feeling is mutual. I do not want to hurt your feelings, but I do not want to replace that tree either. Thank you for writing! Maybe one day you will find a wonderful girl!! We can be friends though!





Dr. Laura,

i am scared of snakes. I am deadly afraid they were in my friend's lake.. what should I do to overcome this?

-Scared of Snakes




Scared of Snakes,

Hello. I assure you that everyone is afraid of something in life. Even though they might insist their fearlessness, they have something they fret over. Well, they probably are in your friend's lake, since it is a lake and all. The snakes will not go near you in the water...I promise you that! Movement will scare them away. Water snakes like that are also pretty harmless. Have you actually seen someone get bitten there yet? If not, chances are that there are few snakes or they don't even go near people. just jump in and have fun like all of your other friends! This is an appropriate risk to take. Plus, you take worse risks each day, you might not even notice either! So please, take my advice, jump in that lake and have the time of your life!!!





Dr. Laura, I have a problem. I was with some good friends recently playing capture the flag and my good friend's brother and friend. They were cheating at playing capture the flag. I knew we won in my heart but I got soo annoyed.. What should I do to overcome this? PLEASE HELP

-non cheater




Non cheater,

Hello. Well, I understand that you are a very fair player, but sometimes you have to realize younger people enjoy to play their own way, which other people may not like at all. Just play as fair as you can, until it is too overwhelming. Then, well cheaters never prosper, so play dirty too. Make up some new rules that you both can agree on. Sure, you may have won, but do not argue. They will only be more reliant on the term that they may have won anyways. You can be annoyed, everyone gets to that point at sometime or another. Just ignore it and they will see that their cheating isn't bothering you. If they notice that, their new rules won't be as fun anymore. Take my advice, ignore it or get even!





Hey Dr.Laura,

I enjoy tipping over canoes and my friend gets really mad. I only do it to let water in teh canoe not to annoy her. I also love swimming in them.. Help what should I do?/ I mean how many ppl can honestly say they swam in a boat?

-Canoe tipper




Canoe tipper,

Hello. I am sure she understands you did not tip it to annoy her. Maybe, due to the fact she might have suggested the boat ride and the fact that she had a nice dry towel on, may have ticked her off a little. Don't fret though. As you both look back on it, well it was funny! No, I can't say I know many people that swam IN a boat, but how many people can you say you know that pulled a boat to shore while 2 people were swimming in it? That's right, one...me! She wasn't exactly mad, I believe, but possibly frustrated with the fact that you don't know your science too well. Tipping a boat to let water in will make the boat heavier on that side dipping in due to the weight of the water (and it not being on the other side). Canoes tip easily, in case you didn't know! Just tell your wonderful friend that you didn't mean it, and you can definitely laugh about it in the future!! Plus, she is NOT mad...ok ok, I guess it would have been funnier, maybe if you didn't make her fetch the oar after you sunk the canoe yourself, but never-the-less, don't worry about it!





i think my dog thinks i'm a dog and since i love my dog so much i try to be like a dog. i love it so much that i can't stop being like a dog. what do i do dr. laura?

-some random person




Some random person,

Hello. Well, since your dog thinks you are a dog, maybe he just considers you his best friend, I mean a dog is a person's best friend, right? I can see you love your dog very much, I mean to act like a dog to play with him and all. But, people might find this a little strange. Not many older people I know like to be a dog, but then everyone's got a different personality! Instead of trying to BE a dog, you should get your dog a doggy friend! What's two dogs to a dog-lover like yourself? I understand that you must love your dog a lot because I love my dog too, but I don't pretend to be a dog for him. Try just playing ball with him and throwing him a frisbee or two. He will like you for who you are, like your friends do! He will also like you for being a friend, no matter what species you are!





Dear doctor laura-

I met you the other day at a lake. I helped you and your friends find a boat! I have a problem, and that is that I have difficulty talking to people. Sometimes, when I get nervous, I stick my fingers under my armpits and smell them. Also, I told you that you and your friends were "old...and big...and STUFF!" I didn't mean it, I just have a problem. Could you help me become a SUPERSTAAAAA like ELLK? p.s. I dislike when I am called Fronk. MY NAME IS FRANK YOU MORON!

- A particular moron




A particular moron,

Hello. I think your name is Fronk, and you know it is secretly. We all get accustomed to being called something, but when the truth comes out, we don't like it. Do not fret, Fronk is a beautiful name. Frank is too! I think that you should learn to be a little more considerate though. Girls do not appreciate being called "old..and big..and stuff!" That's wrong. Those girls, as I was there, were kind and considerate. I think if you removed those big sunglasses you could see their innosence. Actually, calling me a Moron isn't so appropriate. I believe a little bird named Hot Josh called you a moron. Don't worry about the armpit thing-- Mary Katherine Gallagher does that and look how famous she turned out to be!! It is probably a good thing for your publicity, although other people might think it is a little bit on the gross side. And lastly, to become SUPERSTAAAAS like ELLK takes A LOT of talent, my friend. Their dancing was superb--and the whole audience enjoyed it thoroughly! If you take a dance lesson with them, you can be such a SUPERSTAAAA!! Just call one of the three including Erin, "Ashley", Kerri, or Laura and they will be pleased to be of assistance. Thanks! BYe!